Being apart of many Facebook support groups I noticed a lot of adolescents suffering from some sort of depression caused by break ups and relationship drama. I believe by understanding our emotions and human behaviours we can be armed with a good understanding of how we act as humans. With this ammunition we can better train our minds to prepare and look for some behaviours to understand some of the situations life throws at us. In past posts I went into some common emotions we see as negative to see how they can help us; In this article I am going through what I believe is a basic cycle of many relationships. I cannot speak for all relationships but I have noticed these common behaviours in a large number of relationships my friends, family and even I had.
I used to be afraid of a lot of things in life. Fear seemed to have consumed a large portion of who I was; and it hindered my progress in almost every aspect of my life, from pushing to be better at sports in fear of self injury (okay that one is reasonable), fear of progressing at work, and even fear of relationships and commitment. Some times I was afraid that some stranger would attack me in a dark alley. My fear controlled such a huge aspect of my life that it pushed away almost everything that was good for me.
I remember when I was thirteen years old; it was my first father’s day after my father past away. It was a hard time and still is. I remember looking on old social media accounts like, Nexopia, and seeing others with their fathers, photos popping up, or even the next Monday in class, class mates telling each other their class mates what they did for fathers day as I sat there in envy.
It's all about finding the good in the worst situations. How many times do you find your self pounding out the negatives? Be grateful for all you have! If you're in the middle of an argument stop! and tell the other person what you love about them, life's too short to hate!
In one of my previous posts, To Love is to be Alert, I outlined the importance of being alert. It teaches us to see what is really out there that there are plenty of good things inside others and us. As you practices being alert take some time be alert not just in nature as your out for a walk but also in all aspects of your life, especially your relationships.
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