Everywhere around us is negativity. Have you looked at the news lately? A large majority of our news is negative. This house is on fire, this person broke into this, and the traffic sucks, and the weather is mostly gloomy, blah, blah. We are bred into a negative world full of pessimists, reinforcing us to be negative beings, to bring the mood of everyone around us down. Not too mention you go to a job you dislike, your co-worker did something you dislike, and all the negativity just doesn’t end. No wonder this world is stuck on anti-depressants, or coming up with new disorders one after another. This world is in a disorder, and there is only one way out.
A few years ago I was talking with a co-worker about general health and the topic of stress came up. He taught me a bit about breathing with your diaphragm and how it generates some feel good hormones. A few years later I was talking with a psychologist and I learned even more about this style of breathing. As I researched more about this topic, and started putting it into practice, I found myself even breathing this way in everyday life, resulting in an overall increase in quality of life; and my state of being was much more peaceful.
I used to be afraid of a lot of things in life. Fear seemed to have consumed a large portion of who I was; and it hindered my progress in almost every aspect of my life, from pushing to be better at sports in fear of self injury (okay that one is reasonable), fear of progressing at work, and even fear of relationships and commitment. Some times I was afraid that some stranger would attack me in a dark alley. My fear controlled such a huge aspect of my life that it pushed away almost everything that was good for me.
I remember when I was thirteen years old; it was my first father’s day after my father past away. It was a hard time and still is. I remember looking on old social media accounts like, Nexopia, and seeing others with their fathers, photos popping up, or even the next Monday in class, class mates telling each other their class mates what they did for fathers day as I sat there in envy.
Some times when we don’t know our emotions we cannot control them. When we cannot control our emotions we may get lost in our emotions and let our emotions get the best of us. In my last post I talked about getting angry or even enraged and the upside of it. However if you are like the rest of the population there will be times we all get angry. After we get angry we may realize our actions and begin to feel ashamed, guilty and even embarrassed. What is the constructive side of these emotions?
Anger is a weird emotion and we may sometimes not even recognize that we are angry; I know it happens to me quite often. Some times we just have to stop and realize what we are really feeling to know what caused it and why are acting this way. Anger has long been noted as a very hostile and negative emotion. What you may learn from this post may pleasantly surprise you. Having the knowledge you’re about to discover may help you turn this commonly negative war mongering emotion to your best motivator. Anyways… lets look more a bit into anger, how its caused and what it can do for us!
Our emotions control almost every aspect of our lives form guiding you when you should create a relationship or to when you should run into a burning house to save a strangers family pet. It is your emotions that drive us to succeed or fail in life, what ever your goal or desire is. They can be your source of motivation, or be there to tell you when to fight or flight. However our society doesn’t think of our emotions this way.
This simple animation tells some of the hardships of those with depression. Some people may say, “so what”, “suck it up”, or “think positive”. What some of these people need to know is it’s more then a mood. It’s when the depression sticks with you for weeks without any relief and it interferes with your everyday life, some times in almost all aspects of life, and that mood becomes a temperament or apart of your personality if it stays long enough.
So, you want to change your self? You want to conquer depression, you want to get rid of your bad habits, or… you just want to change whatever it is about yourself to become the you; The "You" that want to be.
Becoming the "you" that you want to be seems quite simple but like our gratitude challenge can be challenging at times. In this post I will explain a bit on how our brain works to help build an understanding of our exercises and how you can put this knowledge to work to greatly benefit yourself and to start the change you so desire today.