How often have you heard someone say, “People do not change”? I don’t know about you, but I have lost count; and in the back of my head I am thinking, “What bullshit”. Of course many people may think I have lost my mind, and I am happy to say I have lost my mind! Okay, I am not crazy, but I have grown; I have changed.
Often when we encounter new information that doesn’t fit with what we have previously known, we come into a state of confusion. This new information can be caused by learning something new, academics, and a dance routine; or even by meeting a new friend. We get an error message sent to our brains when we are not expecting one. This new information may cause our brows to furrow, our stomachs may get queasy, and the world becomes an unsettling place. The universe as we know it comes to a complete standstill.
For those who don’t know me: I make a lot of not so bright decisions in my life. If you know me you would also know I made a rash life choice that I regret. This life choice made me stop and think about what I really want in life; made me take time to find my self and ultimately create this blog, so I can help you guys make choices you may not regret. As I write this blog, I am also putting what I learn to practice as I give it to you guys. Let's look a bit more into our emotions and why we regret some of the things we do.
I used to be afraid of a lot of things in life. Fear seemed to have consumed a large portion of who I was; and it hindered my progress in almost every aspect of my life, from pushing to be better at sports in fear of self injury (okay that one is reasonable), fear of progressing at work, and even fear of relationships and commitment. Some times I was afraid that some stranger would attack me in a dark alley. My fear controlled such a huge aspect of my life that it pushed away almost everything that was good for me.
I remember when I was thirteen years old; it was my first father’s day after my father past away. It was a hard time and still is. I remember looking on old social media accounts like, Nexopia, and seeing others with their fathers, photos popping up, or even the next Monday in class, class mates telling each other their class mates what they did for fathers day as I sat there in envy.
Some times when we don’t know our emotions we cannot control them. When we cannot control our emotions we may get lost in our emotions and let our emotions get the best of us. In my last post I talked about getting angry or even enraged and the upside of it. However if you are like the rest of the population there will be times we all get angry. After we get angry we may realize our actions and begin to feel ashamed, guilty and even embarrassed. What is the constructive side of these emotions?
Anger is a weird emotion and we may sometimes not even recognize that we are angry; I know it happens to me quite often. Some times we just have to stop and realize what we are really feeling to know what caused it and why are acting this way. Anger has long been noted as a very hostile and negative emotion. What you may learn from this post may pleasantly surprise you. Having the knowledge you’re about to discover may help you turn this commonly negative war mongering emotion to your best motivator. Anyways… lets look more a bit into anger, how its caused and what it can do for us!
Our emotions control almost every aspect of our lives form guiding you when you should create a relationship or to when you should run into a burning house to save a strangers family pet. It is your emotions that drive us to succeed or fail in life, what ever your goal or desire is. They can be your source of motivation, or be there to tell you when to fight or flight. However our society doesn’t think of our emotions this way.
This simple animation tells some of the hardships of those with depression. Some people may say, “so what”, “suck it up”, or “think positive”. What some of these people need to know is it’s more then a mood. It’s when the depression sticks with you for weeks without any relief and it interferes with your everyday life, some times in almost all aspects of life, and that mood becomes a temperament or apart of your personality if it stays long enough.
In one of my previous posts, To Love is to be Alert, I outlined the importance of being alert. It teaches us to see what is really out there that there are plenty of good things inside others and us. As you practices being alert take some time be alert not just in nature as your out for a walk but also in all aspects of your life, especially your relationships.
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