Everywhere around us is negativity. Have you looked at the news lately? A large majority of our news is negative. This house is on fire, this person broke into this, and the traffic sucks, and the weather is mostly gloomy, blah, blah. We are bred into a negative world full of pessimists, reinforcing us to be negative beings, to bring the mood of everyone around us down. Not too mention you go to a job you dislike, your co-worker did something you dislike, and all the negativity just doesn’t end. No wonder this world is stuck on anti-depressants, or coming up with new disorders one after another. This world is in a disorder, and there is only one way out.
How often have you heard someone say, “People do not change”? I don’t know about you, but I have lost count; and in the back of my head I am thinking, “What bullshit”. Of course many people may think I have lost my mind, and I am happy to say I have lost my mind! Okay, I am not crazy, but I have grown; I have changed.
Often when we encounter new information that doesn’t fit with what we have previously known, we come into a state of confusion. This new information can be caused by learning something new, academics, and a dance routine; or even by meeting a new friend. We get an error message sent to our brains when we are not expecting one. This new information may cause our brows to furrow, our stomachs may get queasy, and the world becomes an unsettling place. The universe as we know it comes to a complete standstill.
A few years ago I was talking with a co-worker about general health and the topic of stress came up. He taught me a bit about breathing with your diaphragm and how it generates some feel good hormones. A few years later I was talking with a psychologist and I learned even more about this style of breathing. As I researched more about this topic, and started putting it into practice, I found my self even breathing this way in every day life, resulting in an overall increase in quality of life; and my state of being was much more peaceful.
When we love our selves from the heart we raise our self-esteem and love ourselves even more! What's even cool is later on it strengthens our relationships with others. It then cascades where we help raise their self-esteem, they love from their heart and it keeps going. Love never fails
I want to talk to you about something that has changed my life and may have the potential to change yours. Chances are this article will affect one in four people. I remember going to the doctor with symptoms of extreme fatigue. I would only want to sleep; I would be slow, sluggish; I would be sore all the time, and depressed. Having a rather physical job, and working outside all the time, I thought it might have been my job, working hard and always being on my feet; however a blood test showed different results.
For those who don’t know me: I make a lot of not so bright decisions in my life. If you know me you would also know I made a rash life choice that I regret. This life choice made me stop and think about what I really want in life; made me take time to find my self and ultimately create this blog, so I can help you guys make choices you may not regret. As I write this blog, I am also putting what I learn to practice as I give it to you guys. Let's look a bit more into our emotions and why we regret some of the things we do.
I used to be afraid of a lot of things in life. Fear seemed to have consumed a large portion of who I was; and it hindered my progress in almost every aspect of my life, from pushing to be better at sports in fear of self injury (okay that one is reasonable), fear of progressing at work, and even fear of relationships and commitment. Some times I was afraid that some stranger would attack me in a dark alley. My fear controlled such a huge aspect of my life that it pushed away almost everything that was good for me.
I remember when I was thirteen years old; it was my first father’s day after my father past away. It was a hard time and still is. I remember looking on old social media accounts like, Nexopia, and seeing others with their fathers, photos popping up, or even the next Monday in class, class mates telling each other their class mates what they did for fathers day as I sat there in envy.
Some times when we don’t know our emotions we cannot control them. When we cannot control our emotions we may get lost in our emotions and let our emotions get the best of us. In my last post I talked about getting angry or even enraged and the upside of it. However if you are like the rest of the population there will be times we all get angry. After we get angry we may realize our actions and begin to feel ashamed, guilty and even embarrassed. What is the constructive side of these emotions?